so you won't agree or disagree with what i said.

is it because you are not in the field of counseling, you just give out your nonsense opinion to everyone?

Hey Sk,
I didn't know. For 13 years, I thought the marriage was perfect. He did his thing, I did mine, I stayed home and took care of his 3 babies. He worked late alot but I thought nothing of it. Then about two years ago, he started wanting to go out with his guy friends. It started a once in awhile thing and he started drinking and buying guns(which I absolutely hate) He started doing all the things he never did and knew I hated. It started getting later and later and more frequent that he would come home. I never met his friends and asked why I couldn't go. He said that I didn't need to go out with the guys, it was a guy thing. Then one night a woman called my house at 2 in the morning. I ansered the phone. She said that she met him at a dance place and he told her that he was single, didn't have a girlfriend and to give him a call. He denied the whole thing and said he didn't know who she was. I was devistated and shocked. He told me I was making a big deal. Then about 6 months later, he came home at 9:00 in the morning and told me he slept on a woman't couch but didn't do anything. I had to see a therapist, had a panic attack. I was mentally abused and wasn't allowed to discuss it. He had me convinced that I had obsessive problems. I didn't know whether to believe him or not. Thought it was me. The therapist gave me a drug called ativan. My problems went away and he started taking me out with his friends. I got alot of attention and he didn't like it. He started getting violent, drinking at home, not speaking to me and finally one day I put a restraining order on him. It was after I did that that people started telling me stories of all the women including his ex wife before we were even married. I really believed in my marriage but it was affecting my mental stability. He had 20 guns in my house and said that he would kill me if I ever tried to leave him. I never even thought of looking at anyone else. Didn't have any friends. I just sat in the house for 15 years and did crafts, gardening and took care of my kids. He didn't like it if anything was out of place or anything. Anyway, the whole thing ended up a lie. He has a girlfriend already even though he says he's devistated and wants to come back. He also never spent a dime on me on my kids unless we absolutely needed something. He makes real good money. I never complained, I just figured that if he was happy then we would be happy. I lost myself, my worth, my passion and my power. I took it back the day I went to court and here I am, slightly broken but I'll be fine. Thanks for asking. I may seem bitter sometimes but I'm soaring higher and higher every day :)

Hugs...Bobbi