Hi all,

I used to be, well, a typical Scorpio (female). I recently talked to an ex boyfriend who told me breathlessly "but my god you were talented...oh man I still have memories...for what its worth, you were probably the most fun I had...god I miss that mouth..." (yes, that's all verbatim). As you can see, typical horny scorpio chick who makes men drool and dream and wears them out! He is married now, so we're not going to get together obviously, but man he made me realize how long it's been since I actually had sex, and more so, how long it's been since I had sex I enjoyed. I've lost my libido pretty much. I've tried - I've had sex with various guys but none of them really interested me. Having sex with men who I wasn't totally interested in in the past didn't bother me, because let's be honest, I was mostly using them for the sex anyway. ;-) At the time, I was very into things like reiki, and reading about being a Scorpio, and power and bdsm (not so much doing it, but reading about it, mostly because I couldn't find someone I wanted to submit to). I was actually somewhat sexually submissive (and yet dominant) and got off a lot in making men, well, making men drool over me like the above ex-boyfriend obviously did.

Somewhere along the way I lost the plot. I became super focused on a bunch of personal and professional goals and had to necessarily cut out a lot of people and superfluous stuff. I also went through some personal betrayals and tough times, but nothing too extreme (heartbreak, crappy roommates, robbery). In that time I became disconnected from a lot of people and a lot of things I really liked. My sex life also became null and void. Now, I get annoyed when it's obvious a man just wants to sleep with me. I don't like being touched and I haven't had a crush in eons. I can't even enjoy masturbation much - it's more of a chore that I do because I feel I should. I've fallen into the rut of work/sleep/work/sleep. I need to get out of this!

So....how do I reconnect to myself and to others? How do I get my Scorpionic libido back? I'm in a rut and I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong or what steps I need to take to become the fun-loving sexy saucy minx I once was. Any tips?

Thanks!
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