So, I'm seeing a Scorpio. When we're together, it's great...
He doesn't call me. He did the first week, then just stopped....
We went for a weekand a half not talking, and I though, "ok, he's not interested..." Then, he texted me and asked if I wasn't talking to him anymore. So, I answered, I though you weren't.... and we made up..... and out.....
Anywho... now, it's beed a month and we've been seeing each other regularly....
He hasn't called me for 3 days.
WTF?????
He doesn't call me. He did the first week, then just stopped....
We went for a weekand a half not talking, and I though, "ok, he's not interested..." Then, he texted me and asked if I wasn't talking to him anymore. So, I answered, I though you weren't.... and we made up..... and out.....
Anywho... now, it's beed a month and we've been seeing each other regularly....
He hasn't called me for 3 days.
WTF?????
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Re: WTF do I do?
Thu, July 17, 2008 - 1:39 PMhe's married. go to your local church & confess adultery. maybe you can get him that annulment he's been wanting. then he's all yours!
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maybe you could just give him a call. -
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Re: WTF do I do?
Thu, July 17, 2008 - 1:45 PMLol. He's divorced with kids, and so am I... I called him today and he didn't answer. But, I don't want to always be the one calling him, you know? It's nice to be pursued as well... Ugh. I should just stop dating and go to the nunnery!!!!! -
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Re: WTF do I do?
Thu, July 17, 2008 - 1:52 PMNNNOOOOO!!!!!!!! NOT THE NUNNERY!!!!!!!!!
seriously, anything but that.
wait a few days. think about this decision. -
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Re: WTF do I do?
Thu, July 17, 2008 - 1:53 PMNo, it's too late. I must.... -
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Re: WTF do I do?
Thu, July 17, 2008 - 1:55 PMthis is the rest of your life you're talking about...
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Re: WTF do I do?
Thu, July 17, 2008 - 2:13 PMonly 1 way to resolve problems and that is go directly to them and work em out
communicate with this guy openly and directly and dont play mindgames ...
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Re: WTF do I do?
Thu, July 17, 2008 - 2:19 PMYes, total brutal honesty, then making out, because I can't resist his dark sensuality... then, more brutal honesty!
Seriously, if it's meant to be, it should just "fall in your lap", right? -
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Re: WTF do I do?
Thu, July 17, 2008 - 3:19 PMsome hard work must be done with matching agendas and expectations betwixt any 2 persons in such a situation ... -
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Re: WTF do I do?
Thu, July 17, 2008 - 3:22 PMI see, I see... Well, there is also the matter of effort that both parties put into such a relationship... and expectations must be known, I suppose...? -
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Re: WTF do I do?
Thu, July 17, 2008 - 6:42 PMrelationships are THE most difficult thing for a person to navigate - much more difficult than any external
endeavor. That being said, one should never engage in a relationship which is not 60/40 - there is really
no such thing as 50/50 (though I'm sure several of you could/would beg to differ)
With regard to your specific issue it is, indeed, best to voice your needs and desires, offering the
other person an opportunity to fulfill them. If, then, the actions do not alter, you will need to re-assess
the situation. Nothing worse than pining over someone and hoping that ,some day, they will give you
what you need/desire.
That said, I've never been the initiator with calls/texts etc, preferring to be alone even when I totally
"dig" someone (unless sexual gratification overruled any privacy/alone time I need to do my own thing)
So this may just be part of his character and you will need to understand that though you want to be
pursued, he may never be the pursuer.
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